There are many signs that a woman gives when she is inviting you to come meet her. The more that you go out and involve yourself around women, the more you will be able to pick up on these signs. The most obvious sign is eye contact. Do you two make eye contact and does she smile? Are you two making eye contact more than once? These are obvious signs of invitation. If you are making eye contact with her, make sure you don’t overdue it with a stare, unless you have started to talk to her. The last thing you want to do is scare her off. Glances long enough to show her you noticed her are all it takes. It also helps to smile. You want her to know that she single-handedly brightened up your mood. Women want you to make the first move and she will indirectly challenge your confidence. If you wait too long or wait for her to make the first move, you will probably fail the test.

When speaking to a woman, it helps to smile, make eye contact and have an upright posture. In addition to this, one very good tip written by a women named Tiffany Taylor (female author on dating tips for men and approaching women), suggests gesticulating with open palms. She states,

“I’ve gone into in-depth studies of body language and this one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances. I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women however, some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and non- verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines! Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk. It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are being straight with her, is important. This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.”

If you want to get off on the right track, she must feel comfortable when talking to you. Also, you don’t want to approach her from behind. Make sure you approach her from the side or front. This will prevent you from surprising her, a definite no-no! In addition, you don’t want to put her on the defense. A woman, with any confidence, will want to be on the offense. It shows that they are comfortable with you. If she continually is on the defense, you may want to decide to move on.

One thing I’ve noticed is that quick wits win every time. One time I approached these two women and I caught them in mid sentence when one of them mentioned the word “weirdo”. I could have assumed they were talking about me and let my confidence sink, but instead I took the approach with confidence. The first thing I said was “I haven’t said one word to you and already you’re calling me a weirdo?” The conversation started off well because it was something witty and it made her laugh. She could have been talking about me, but it didn’t matter because of how I said it and my overall confidence in approaching her. Of course I didn’t say it with any kind of anger. I said it in a way that put me on the defense so she would have nowhere to go but on the offense. Approach her with confidence!

If you are able to incorporate these techniques when approaching women, you will be someone that she can feel comfortable talking to. The more comfortable she is with talking to you, the better your chances are of bonding with her! This is where everything starts!


by William Edwards